Hubby and I are considered "trauma informed parents" because we watched some videos online and passed the tests. Needless to say these videos did little to prepare us for becoming JJ and Lil' Bro's parents.
We were told that we had to always remain in control and calm and that would regulate the child. Yet we are real people with real emtoions, not cartoon characters. Even blogs on autism said that if your kid is headbutting, self harming, or displaying destructive behaviors, it is the parents fault for not meeting all of the kid's needs. I guess they thought I should be all knowing and somehow sense every need and emotion of my noncommunicative child.
The unneccesary guilt they are piling up on parents is totally unfair! I quit researching online because I was told this kind of garbage over and over. Instead, I trusted myself and through trial and error, and talking to those, who actually knew JJ, we found what works for him.
MR
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